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THE RIGHT HONOURABLE
AS the profest design of this work is to enter
tain it's readers in general; without giving offence to any particular person, it would be ditficult to find out so proper a patron for it as yourself, there being none whose merit is more universally acknowledged by all parties, and who has made himself more friends, and fewer enemies, Your great abilities, and unquestioned integrity, in those high employments which you have passed through, would not have been able to have raised you this general approbation, had they not been accompanied with that muderation in an high fortune, and that affability of manners, which are so conspicuous through all parts your life. Your aversion to any oftentatious arts of setting to show those great services which you have done the publick, has not likewise a little contributed to that universal acknowledgment which is paid you by your country.
Thé consideration of this part of your character, is that which hinders me from enlarging on those extraordinary talents, which have
given you so great a figure in the British Senate, as well as in that elegance and politeness which appear in your more retired conversation. I should be unpardonable, if, after what I have said, I should longer detain you with an address of this nature : I cannot, however, con, clude it without owning those great obligations which you have laid upon,
your most obedient,
SPECTAT O R.
No. CLXX. FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 1711.
In amore hæc omnia insunt vitia: injuriz.
jealousies, quarrels, reconcilements, war, and then peace. UPON looking over the letters of my female corref
pondents, I find several from women complaining of jealous husbands, and at the same time protesting their own innocence; and defiring my advice on this occasion. I shall therefore take this subject into my consideration; and the more willingly, because I find that the Marquis of Halifax, who, in his Advice to a Daughter, has instructed a wife how to behave herself towards a false, an intemperate, a cholerick, a sullen, a covetous, or a filly husband, has not spoken one word of a jealous husband.
Jealousy is that pain which a man feels from the apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the person whom he intirely loves. Now because our inward passions and inclinations can never make themselves visible, it is impollible for a jealous man to be thoroughly cured of his suspicions. His thoughts hang at best in a state of doubtfulness and uncertainty; and are never capable of receiving any satisfaction on the advantageous fide; so that his inquiries are most successful when incy discover nothing. His pleasure arises from his dir.
appointments, and his life is spent in pursuit of a secret that destroys his happiness if he chance to find it.
An ardent love is always a strong ingredient in this passion; for the fame affection which stirs up the jea. Jous man's desires, and gives the party beloved so beautiful a figure in his imagination, makes him believe the kindles the same paffion in others, and appears as amiable to all beholders. And as jealousy thus arises from an extraordinary love, it is of so delicate a nature, that it scorns to take up with any thing less than an equal return of love. Not the warmest expressions of affection, the foftest and most tender hypocrisy, are able to give any satisfaction, where we are not persuaded that the affection is real, and the satisfaction mutual. For the jealous man wishes himfelf a kind of deity to the person he loves; He would be the only pleasure of her senses, the employment of her thoughts: and is angry at every thing the admires, or takes delight in, besides himself.
Phædria’s request to his mistress upon his leaving her for three days, is inimitably beautiful and natural.
Cum milite isto præsens, abfens ut fies:
“ When you are in company with that soldier, behave
as if you were absent: But continue to love me by $6 day and by night: Want me: dream of me; ex" pećt me; think of me; wish for me; delight in me; Fr Be wholly with me: In short, be my very foul, as I so am your's.”
Thé jcalous man's disease is of so malignant a nature, that it converts all he takes into its own nourishment, A cool behaviour sets him on the rack, and is interpreted as an instance of aversion or indifference; a fond one raises his fufpicions, and looks too much like dif