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sollicitous to engross; and that for these two Reasons, No. 170. because it lays too great a Constraint on the Words and Friday, Actions of the suspected Person, and at the same time Sept. 14, shews you have no honourable Opinion of her; both of which are strong Motives to Aversion.

Nor is this the worst Effect of Jealousie ; for it often draws after it a more fatal Train of Consequences, and makes the Person you suspect guilty of the very Crimes you are so much afraid of. It is very natural for such who are treated ill and upbraided falsely, to find out an intimate Friend that will hear their Complaints, condole their Sufferings, and endeavour to sooth and asswage their secret Resentments. Besides, Jealousie puts a Woman often in Mind of an ill thing that she would not otherwise perhaps have thought of, and fills her Imagination with such an unlucky Idea, as in Time grows familiar, excites Desire, and loses all the Shame and Horrour which might at first attend it. Nor is it a Wonder, if she who suffers wrongfully in a Man's Opinion of her, and has therefore nothing to forfeit in his Esteem, resolves to give him Reason for his Suspicions, and to enjoy the Pleasure of the Crime since she must undergo the Ignominy. Such probably were the Considerations that directed the wise Man in his Advice to Husbands; Be not jealous over the Wife of thy Bosom, and teach her not an evil Lesson against thyself. Ecclus.

And here, among the other Torments which this Passion produces, we may usually observe that none are greater Mourners than jealous Men, when the Person who provoked their Jealousie is taken from them. Then it is that their Love breaks out furiously, and throws off all the Mixtures of Suspicion which choaked and smothered it before. The beautiful Parts of the Character rise uppermost in the jealous Husband's Memory, and upbraid him with the ill Usage of so divine a Creature as was once in his Possession; whilst all the little Imperfections that were before so uneasie to him wear off from his Remembrance, and shew themselves no more.

We may see, by what has been said, that Jealousie takes the deepest Root in Men of amorous Dispositions ;


No. 170.
Sept. 14,


and of these we may find three Kinds who are most over-run with it

The First are those who are conscious to themselves of any Infirmity, whether it be Weakness, old Age, Deformity, Ignorance, or the like. These Men are so well acquainted with the unamiable Part of themselves, that they have not the Confidence to think they are really beloved; and are so distrustful of their own Merits, that all Fondness towards them puts them out of Countenance, and looks like a Jest upon their Persons. They grow suspicious on their first looking in a Glass, and are stung with Jealousie at the Sight of a Wrinkle. A handsome Fellow immediately allarms them, and every thing that looks young or gay turns their Thoughts upon their Wives.

A Second sort of Men, who are most liable to this Passion, are those of cunning, wary and distrustful Tempers. It is a Fault very justly found in Histories composed by, Politicians, that they leave nothing to Chance or Humour, but are still for deriving every Action from some Plot and Contrivance, for drawing up a perpetual Scheme of Causes and Events, and preserving a constant Correspondence between the Camp and the Council Table. And thus it happens in the Affairs of

Love with Men of too refined a Thought. They put a Construction on a Look, and find out a Design in a Smile ; they give new Senses and Significations to Words and Actions; and are ever tormenting themselves with Fancies of their own raising: They generally act in a Disguise themselves, and therefore mistake all outward Shows and Appearances for Hipocrisie in others; so that I believe no Men see less of the Truth and Reality of things, than these great Refiners upon Incidents, who are so wonderfully subtile and over-wise in their conceptions.

Now what these Men fancy they know of Women by Reflection, your lewd and vicious Men believe they have learn'd by Experience. They have seen the poor Husband so mis-led by Tricks and Artifices, and in the Midst of his Enquiries so lost and bewildered in a crooked Intreague, that they still suspect an Under plot in every




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female Action; and especially where they see any Re- No. 170. semblance in the Behaviour of two Persons, are apt to Friday, fancy it proceeds from the same Design in both. These Sept. 14, Men therefore bear hard upon the suspected Party, pursue

1711 her close through all her Turns and Windings, and are too well acquainted with the Chace to be flung off by any false Steps or Doubles: Besides, their Acquaintance and Conversation has lain wholly among the vicious Part of Womankind, and therefore it is no Wonder they censure all alike, and look upon the whole Sex as a Species of Impostors. But if, notwithstanding their private Experience, they can get over these Prejudices, and entertain a favourable Opinion of some Women; yet their own loose Desires will stir up new Suspicions from another Side, and make them believe all Men subject to the same Inclinations with themselves.

Whether these or other Motives are most predominant, we learn from the modern Histories of America, as well as from our own Experience in this Part of the World, that Jealousie is no Northern Passion, but rages most in those Nations that lie nearest the Influence of the Sun. It is a Misfortune for a Woman to be born between the Tropicks, for there lie the hottest Regions of Jealousie; which as you come Northward cools all along with the Climate, till you scarce meet with any thing like it in the Polar Circle. Our own Nation is very temperately situated in this Respect, and if we meet with some few disordered with the Violence of this Passion, they are not the proper Growth of our Country, but are many Degrees nearer the Sun in their Constitutions than in their Climate.

After this frightful Account of jealousie, and the Persons who are most subject to it, it will be but fair to shew by what Means the Passion may be best allay'd, and those who are possessed with it set at Ease. Other Faults indeed are not under the Wife's Jurisdiction, and should, if possible, escape her Observation; but Jealousie calls upon her particularly for its Cure, and deserves all her Art and Application in the Attempts Besides, she has this for her Encouragement, that her Endeavours will be always pleasing, and that she will

No. 170. still find the Affection of her Husband rising towards Friday: her in proportion as his Doubts and Suspicions vanish; Sept. 14, for, as we have seen all along, there is so great a 1711

Mixture of Love in Jealousie as is well worth the separating But this shall be the Subject of another Paper


No. 171.

Saturday, September 15.
Credula res amor est- -Ovid. Met.
AVING in my Yesterday's Paper discovered the

Nature of Jealousie, and pointed out the Persons who are most subject to it, I must here apply my self to my Fair Correspondents, who desire to live well with a jealous Husband, and to ease his Mind of its unjust Suspicions.

The first Rule I shall propose to be observed is, that you never seem to dislike in another what the Jealous Man is himself guilty of, or to admire any thing in which he himself does not excell. A Jealous Man is very quick in his Applications; he knows how to find a double Edge in an Invective, and to draw a Satyr on himself out of a Panegyrick on another. He does not trouble himself to consider the Person, but to direct the Character; and is secretly pleased or confounded as he finds more or less of himself in it. The Commendation of any thing in another, stirs up his Jealousie, as it shews you have a Value for others, besides himself ; but the Commendation of that which he himself wants, inflames him more, as it shews that in some Respects you prefer others before him Jealousie is admirably described in this view by Horace in his Ode to Lydia ;

Quum tu, Lydia, Telephi

Cervícem roseam, cerea Telephi
Laudas brachia, vae meum

Fervens difficili bile tumet jecur ,
Tunc nec mens mihi, nec color

Certa sede manet, humor & in geaas
Furtim labitur argueas
Quam leatis penitus macerer igaibus,

Wheo 2

When Telephus his youthful Charms,

No. 171. His rosie Neck and winding Arms,

Saturday, With endless Rapture you recite,

Sept. 15,
And in the pleasing Name delight,

My Heart, inflam'd by Jealous Heats,
With numberless Reseatments beats,
From my pale Cheek the Colour flies,
And all the Man withio me Diess
By turns my hidden Grief appears
lo rising Sighs and falling Tears,
That shew too well the warm Desires,
The silent, slow, consuming Fires,
Which on my inmost Vitals prey,

And melt my very Soul away,
The Jealous Man is not indeed angry, if you dislike
another, but if you find those Faults which are to be
found in his own Character, you discover not only your
Dislike of another but of himself. In short, he is so
desirous of engrossing all your Love, that he is grieved
at the want of any Charm, which, he believes, has
power to raise it; and if he finds, by your Censures
on others, that he is not so agreeable in your Opinion
as he might be, he naturally concludes you could love
him better, if he had other Qualifications, and that by
Consequence your Affection does not arise so high as
he thinks it ought. If therefore his Temper be Grave
or Sullen, you must not be too much pleased with a
Jest, or transported with any thing that is gay and
diverting. If his Beauty be none of the best, you must
be a profest Admirer of Prudence, or any other
Quality he is Master of, or at least vain enough to
think he is.

In the next place, you must be sure to be free and


your Conversation with him, and to let in Light upon your Actions, to unravel all your Designs, and discover every Secret however trifling or indifferent. A jealous Husband has a particular Aversion to Winks and Whispers, and if he does not see to the Bottom of every thing, will be sure to go beyond it in his Fears and Suspicions. He will always expect to be your chief Confident, and where he finds himself kept out of a Secret, will believe there is more in it than there should be. And here it is of great concern, that you preserve


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