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present, because some other line of conduct is more right.

It is not by books alone, or chiefly, that one becomes in all points a man. Study to do faithfully every duty that comes in your way. Stand to your post; silently devour the chagrins of life; love justice; control self; swerve not from truth or right; be a man of rectitude, decision, conscientiousness; one that fears and obeys God, and exercises benevolence to all; and in all this you shall possess true manliness.

We seldom contemn mankind till they have injured us; and when they have, we seldom do anything but detest them for the injury.-Bulwer.

Men's weaknesses and faults are known from their enemies; their virtues and abilities from their friends; their customs and lives from their servants.—Anon.

Man, if he compares himself with all that he can see, is at the zenith of power; but if he compare himself with all that he can conceive, he is at the nadir of weakness.Collon.

Bounded in his nature, infinite in his desires, man is a fallen god who has a recollection of heaven.-Lamartine.

Man should be ever better than he seem; and shape his acts, and discipline his mind, to walk adorning earth, with hope of heaven.-Aubrey de Vere.

A man must stand erect, not be kept erect by others.-Marcus Aurelius.

The way of a superior man is three-fold: virtuous, he is free from anxieties; wise, he is free from perplexities; bold, he is free from fear.-Confucius.

It is an error to suppose that a man belongs to himself. No man does. He belongs to his wife, or his children, or his relations, or his creditors, or to society, in some form or other. He has his body, and that is all, and even for that he is answerable to society. In short, society is the master and man is the servant; and it is entirely according as society proves a good or bad master, whether he turns out a bad or a good servant.-Sala.

Surely, if all the world was made for man, then man was made for more than the world.-Duplessis.

Man! thou pendulum betwixt a smile and tear.-Byron.

In men this blunder still you find, all think their little set mankind.-H. More.

Contemporaries appreciate the man rather than the merit; but posterity will

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regard the merit rather than the man.Colton.

An evil man is clay to God, and wax to the devil; a good man is God's wax, and Satan's clay.-Bp. Hall.

One cannot always be a hero, but one can always be a man.-Goethe.

In these two things the greatness of man consists, to have God so dwelling in us as to impart his character to us, and to have him so dwelling in us that we recognize his presence, and know that we are his, and he is ours. The one is salvation: the other the assurance of it.-F. W. Robertson.

The older I grow-and I now stand on the brink of eternity-the more comes back to me that sentence in the Catechism which I learned when a child, and the fuller and deeper its meaning becomes : What is the chief end of man? To glorify God and enjoy him forever."-Carlyle.

Every man is valued in this world as he shows by his conduct he wishes to be valued. -Bruyère.

Every man is a volume, if you know how to read him.-Channing.

To study mankind, is not learning to hate them; so far from such a malevolent end, it is learning to bear and live easily with them.

He is but the counterfeit of a man, who has not the life of a man.-Shakespeare.

The soul of man createth its own destiny of power; and as the trial is intenser here, his being hath a nobler strength of heaven.-N. P. Willis.

The highest manhood resides in disposition, not in mere intellect.-H. W. Beecher.

I mean to make myself a man, and if I succeed in that, I shall succeed in everything else.-Garfield.

Who dares do all that may become a man, and dares no more, he is a man indeed.Shakespeare.

There are depths in man that go to the lowest hell, and heights that reach the highest heaven, for are not both heaven and hell made out of him, everlasting miracle and mystery that he is.-Carlyle.

They that deny a God, destroy man's nobility, for man is of kin to the beasts by his body, and if he is not of kin to God by his spirit he is an ignoble creature.-Bacon.

He is the wisest and happiest man, who, by constant attention of thought discovers the greatest opportunity of doing good, and breaks through every opposition that he may improve these opportunities.Doddridge.

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It is not a question how much a man knows, but what use he makes of what he knows; not a question of what he has acquired, and how he has been trained, but of what he is, and what he can do.-J. G. Holland.

Let each man think himself an act of God; his mind a thought, his life a breath of God.-Bailey.

An honest man is the noblest work of God.-Pope.

When faith is lost, and honor dies, the man is dead.- Whittier.

The proud man hath no God; the envious man hath no neighbor; the angry man hath not himself. What good, then, in being a man, if one has neither himself nor a neighbor nor God.--Bp. Hall.

Governments, religion, property, books, are nothing but the scaffolding to build men.-Earth holds up to her master no fruit like the finished man.-Humboldt.

It is not the situation which makes the man, but the man who makes the situation. The slave may be a freeman. The monarch may be a slave. Situations are noble or ignoble, as we make them.-F. W. Robert

son.

The test of every religious, political, or educational system is the man which it forms.-Amiel.

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Good manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse; whoever makes the fewest persons uneasy, is the best bred man in company.-Swift.

Good manners are the settled medium of social, as specie is of commercial, life; returns are equally expected from both; and people will no more advance their civility to a bear than their money to a bankrupt. -Chesterfield.

Manners should bespeak the man, independent of fine clothing. The general does not need a fine coat.-Emerson.

The compliments and ceremonies of our breeding should recall, however remotely, the grandeur of our destiny.-Emerson.

Good sense, kindness of heart, and a proper self-respect are the elements of the best manners.-Tryon Edwards.

Good manners are the small coin of virtue.- Women of England.

Manners are the shadows of virtues: the momentary display of those qualities which our fellow-creatures love and respect. If we strive to become, then, what we strive to appear, manners may often be rendered

useful guides to the performance of our duties.--Sydney Smith.

Manners are minor morals.-Paley. Cultured and fine manners are everywhere a passport to regard.

Good manners are the blossom of good sense and good feeling. If the law of kindness be written in the heart, it will lead to that disinterestedness in both great and little things-that desire to oblige, and that attention to the gratification of others, which are the foundation of good manners.

A man, whose great qualities want the ornament of exterior attractions, is like a naked mountain with mines of gold, which will be frequented only till the treasure is exhausted.-Johnson.

The manner of saying or of doing anything goes a great way in the value of the thing itself. It was well said of him that called a good office, if done harshly and with an ill will, a stony piece of bread: "It is necessary for him that is hungry to receive it, but it almost chokes a man in the going down."--Seneca.

Defect in manners is usually the defect of fine perceptions. Elegance comes of no breeding, but of birth.-Emerson.

Grace is to the body, what good sense is to the mind.-Rochefoucauld.

Manner is everything with some people, and something with everybody.—Bp. Middleton.

There is not any benefit so glorious in itself, but it may yet be exceedingly sweetened and improved by the manner of conferring it. The virtue rests in the intent; the profit in the judicious application of the matter; but the beauty and ornament of an obligation lies in the manner of it.Seneca.

A man ought to carry himself in the world as an orange tree would if it could walk up and down in the garden, swinging perfume from every little censer it holds up to the air.-H. W. Beecher.

Our manners and customs go for more in life than our qualities.-The price we pay for our civilization is the fine yet impassible differentiation of these.-Howell.

Good breeding carries along with it a dignity that is respected by the most petulant. Ill breeding invites and authorizes the familiarity of the most timid.-Chesterfield.

Good manners and good morals are sworn friends and fast allies.-Bartol.

Pride, ill nature, and want of sense are the three great sources of ill manners;

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without some one of these defects, no man will behave himself ill for want of experience, or what, in the language of fools, is called knowing the world.-Swift.

No manners are finer than even the most awkward manifestations of good will to others.

Good manners are made up of petty sacrifices.-Emerson.

Better were it to be unborn than to be ill bred.-Sir W. Raleigh.

Simplicity of manner is the last attainment. Men are very long afraid of being natural, from the dread of being taken for ordinary.-Jeffrey.

I have seen manners that make a similar impression with personal beauty, that give the like exhilaration and refine us like that; and in memorable experiences they are certainly better than beauty, and make that superfluous and ugly. But they must be marked by fine perception, and must always show control; you shall not be facile, apologetic, or leaky, but king over your word; and every gesture and action shall indicate power at rest. They must be inspired by the good heart. There is no beautifier of complexion, or form or behavior, like the wish to scatter joy, and not pain, around us.-Emerson.

Striking manners are bad manners.Robert Hall.

Good breeding consists in having no particular mark of any profession, but a general elegance of manners.-Johnson.

We perhaps never detect how much of our social demeanor is made up of artificial airs, until we see a person who is at once beautiful and simple; without the beauty, we are apt to call simplicity awkwardness.-George Eliot.

We cannot always oblige, but we can always speak obligingly.- Voltaire.

Nature is the best posture-master.Emerson.

Comport thyself in life as at a banquet. If a plate is offered thee, extend thy hand and take it moderately; if it is to be withdrawn, do not detain it. If it come not to thy side, make not thy desire loudly known, but wait patiently till it be offered thee.Epictetus.

Manner is one of the greatest engines of influence ever given to man.

The over-formal often impede, and sometimes frustrate business by a dilatory, tedious, circuitous, and fussy way of conducting the simplest transactions. They have been compared to a dog which cannot lie down till he has made three circuits round the spot. Whately.

Men are like wine; not good before the lees of clownishness be settled.-Feltham.

We are to carry manner from the hand to the heart, to improve a ceremonial nicety into a substantial duty, and the modes of civility into the realities of religion.-South.

Nothing is more reasonable and cheap than good manners.-Anon.

I could better eat with one who did not respect the truth or the laws, than with a sloven and unpresentable person. Moral qualities rule the world, but at short distances the senses are despotic.-Emerson.

There is certainly something of exquisite kindness and thoughtful benevolence in that rarest of gifts,-fine breeding.-Bul

wer.

To be good and disagreeable is high treason against the royalty of virtue.-H. More.

Prepare yourself for the world, as the athletes used to do for their exercises; oil your mind and your manners, to give them the necessary suppleness and flexibility; strength alone will not do.-Chesterfield.

There is a policy in manner. I have heard one, not inexperienced in the pursuit of fame, give it his earnest support, as being the surest passport to absolute and brilliant success.- Tuckerman.

I don't believe in the goodness of disagreeable people.-0. Dewey.

Good manners are a part of good morals; and it is as much our duty as our interest to practise both.-Hunter.

Virtue itself offends when coupled with forbidding manners.-Bp. Middleton.

It is easier to polish the manners than to reform the heart, to disguise a fault than to conquer it. He who can venture to appear as he is, must be what he ought to be, a difficult and arduous task, which often requires the sacrifice of many a darling inclination and the exertion of many a painful effort.-Bowdler.

Unbecoming forwardness oftener proceeds from ignorance than impudence.Gréville.

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There are peculiar ways in men, which discover what they are, through the most subtle feints and closest disguise. A blockhead cannot come in, nor go away, nor sit, nor rise, nor stand, like a man of sense. -Bruyère.

A company attitude is rarely anybody's best.-Miss Sedgwick.

How often have I seen the most solid merit and knowledge neglected, unwelcome, and even rejected, while flimsy parts, little knowledge, and less merit, introduced by the Graces, have been received, cherished, and admired!- Chesterfield.

One of the most important rules as to manners is to be for the most part silent as to yourself. -Say little or nothing about yourself, whether good, bad, or indifferent: nothing good, for that is vanity; nothing bad, for that is affectation; nothing indifferent, for that is silly.

What better school for manners than the company of virtuous women; where the mutual endeavor to please must insensibly polish the mind, where the example of female softness and modesty must communicate itself to their admirers, and where the delicacy of the sex puts every one on his guard lest he give offence?-Hume.

Civility costs nothing, and buys everything. Lady M. W. Montague.

A man's fortune is frequently decided by his first address. If pleasing, others at once conclude he has merit; but if ungraceful, they decide against him.-Chesterfield.

I can forgive a crime; it may have some grand motive; but never an awkwardness. -Mad. Récamier.

What a rare gift is that of manners! How difficult to define; how much more difficult to impart!-Better for a man to possess them, than to have wealth, beauty, or talent; they will more than supply all. -Bulwer.

The true art of being agreeable is to appear well pleased with all the company, and rather to seem well entertained with them than to bring entertainment to them. A man thus disposed may have not much learning, nor any wit; but if he has common sense, and something friendly in his behavior, it conciliates men's minds more than the brightest parts without this disposition.-Addison.

Those that are good manners at the court are as ridiculous in the country, as the behavior of the country is most mockable at the court.-Shakespeare.

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A man's own manner and character is what most becomes him.-Cicero.

Knowledge of men and manners, the freedom of habitudes, and conversation with the best company of both sexes, is necessary to the perfection of good manners. -Dryden.

Good breeding shows itself most, where to an ordinary eye it appears least.-Addison.

Wisdom, valor, justice, and learning cannot keep in countenance a man that is possessed with these excellences, if he wants that inferior art of life and behavior called good breeding.-Steele.

Manners easily and rapidly mature into morals.-H. Mann.

It is certain that either wise bearing, or ignorant carriage is caught, as men take diseases, one from another; therefore let men take heed of their company.-Shakespeare.

Manners are the shadows of virtues, the momentary display of those qualities which our fellow-creatures love and respect.Sydney Smith.

The immoral man, who invades another's property, is justly punished for it; and the ill bred man, who by his ill manners invades and disturbs the quiet and comforts of private life, is by common consent as justly banished society. For my own part, I really think, next to the consciousness of doing a good action, that of doing a civil one is the most pleasing; and the epithet which I should covet the most, next to that of Aristides (the Just), would be that of well bred.-Chesterfield.

An imposing air should always be taken as an evidence of imposition.-Dignity is often a veil between us and the real truth of things.-E. P. Whipple.

Manners are of more importance than laws. Upon them, in a great measure, the laws depend. The law can touch us here and there, now and then. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine, by a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operation, like that of the air we breathe in. They give their whole form and color to our lives. According to their quality, they aid morals, they supply them, or they totally destroy them.-Burke.

A well bred man is always sociable and complaisant.-Montaigne.

Manners must adorn knowledge and smooth its way in the world; without them it is like a great rough diamond, very well

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in a closet by way of curiosity, and also for its intrinsic value; but most prized when polished.-Chesterfield.

There is no policy like politeness; and a good manner is the best thing in the world either to get a good name, or to supply the want of it.-Bulwer.

In conversation use some, but not too much ceremony; it teaches others to be courteous, too. Demeanors are commonly paid back in their own coin.-Fuller.

With virtue, capacity, and good conduct, one still can be insupportable. The manners, which are neglected as small things, are often those which decide men for or against you. A slight attention to them would have prevented their ill judgments. ---Bruyère.

The society of women is the element of good manners.-Goethe.

The distinguishing trait of people accustomed to good society is a calm, imperturbable quiet which pervades all their actions and habits, from the greatest to the least. They eat in quiet, move in quiet, live in quiet, and lose even their money in quiet; while low persons cannot take up either a spoon or an affront without making an amazing noise about it.-Bulwer.

Nothing, except what flows from the heart, can render even external manners truly pleasing.-Blair.

Nothing so much prevents our being natural as the desire of appearing so.-Rochefoucauld.

A man's own good breeding is the best security against other people's ill manners. -Chesterfield.

Manners are stronger than laws.-A. Carlile.

One may now know a man that never conversed in the world, by his excess of good breeding. A polite country esquire shall make you as many bows in half an hour, as would serve a courtier for a week. -Addison.

The happy gift of being agreeable seems to consist not in one, but in an assemblage of talents tending to communicate delight; and how many are there, who. by easy manners, sweetness of temper, and a variety of other undefinable qualities, possess the power of pleasing without any visible effort, without the aids of wit, wisdom, or learning, nay, as it should seem, in their defiance; and this without appearing even to know that they possess it. Cumberland.

Let thy carriage be friendly, but not foolishly free; an unwary openness causeth contempt, but a little reservedness, respect;

and handsome courtesy, kindness.-Fuller. Fine manners are a stronger bond than a beautiful face. The former binds; the latter only attracts.-Lamartine.

Among well bred people, a mutual deference is affected; contempt of others disguised; authority concealed; attention given to each in his turn; and an easy stream of conversation maintained, without vehemence, without interruption, without eagerness for victory, and without any airs of superiority.-Hume.

Hail! ye small sweet courtesies of life, for smooth do ye make the road of it, like grace and beauty which beget inclinations to love at first sight; 'tis ye who open the door and let the stranger in.--Elerne.

Good breeding is the result of much good sense, some good nature, and a little selfdenial for the sake of others and with a view to obtain the same indulgence from them.-Chesterfield.

Complaisance renders a superior amiable, an equal agreeable, and an inferior acceptable. It smoothes distinction, sweetens conversation, and makes every one in the company pleased with himself. It produces good nature and mutual benevolence, encourages the timorous, soothes the turbulent, humanizes the fierce, and distinguishes a society of civilized persons from a confusion of savages.-Addison.

Coolness, and absence of heat and haste, indicate fine qualities. A gentleman makes no noise; a lady is serene.- -Emerson.

Bad manners are a species of bad morals; a conscientious man will not offend in that way.-Boree.

Truth, justice, and reason lose all their force, and all their luster, when they are not accompanied with agreeable manners. -Thomson.

There is a deportment which suits the figure and talents of each person; it is always lost when we quit it to assume that of another.-Rousseau,

The manner of a vulgar man has freedom without ease; the manner of a gentleman, ease without freedom.-Chesterfield.

To be always thinking about your manners is not the way to make them good; the very perfection of manners is not to think about yourself. Whately.

Undeviating civility to those of inferior stations, and courtesy to all, are the emanations of a well-educated mind and finely balanced feelings. There is a certain blending of dignity with sweetness, not often exhibited, but always irresistible.Mrs. Sigourney.